3.2.1. The Behavioral Principle of Urmat (Respect)
Hormat is the principle that pertains to the norm of relationships among people in Javanese society. This principle is defined as that attitude of respect for others whereby every member of society must show an attitude of
urmat, indicating positions and feelings. Mutual respect is still crucial in global association and communication [
26]. It is also necessary for reconciliation [
27]. The principle of hormat represents the Javanese psychological mindset and societal hierarchy.
The principle of hormat in Javanese society predicates the psychological orientation to others that are characterized by mutual obligations. Respect or hormat is one of the psychological factors to elevate tolerant attitudes [
28]. These obligations are not equally distributive, as they provide for the existence of a hierarchy in which there is an obligation for some to guide and lead others. There is a pronounced display of esteem toward those in authority, with elders, educators, and particularly parents being held in high regard, often to the point of veneration (
pepunden). It becomes a psychological condition in ethical principle communication in a family [
29].
The high position of parents and elders is based on the Javanese order of family. Parents become representatives of life because they connect life to life through marriage and having children. They must beget and rear the children until the children get married and take on the task of continuing the lifeline. Consequently, parents become the source of blessing (restu), recognition, and blessing constituting ethics and human dignity in Javanese families. Sometimes the above duties and positions cause psychological problems and burdens.
It is wrong if children do not respect their parents, do not listen to their advice, or even hurt their feelings. In Javanese society, maintaining good relationships is paramount. To this end, the primacy of parents and elders is regarded as the most effective means of achieving this objective. Such a framework fosters humility and respect for the feelings of others, which are fundamental tenets of Javanese ethics. By prioritizing the wisdom and experience of elders, Javanese society has developed a culture that values cooperation, understanding, and harmony. This approach has been instrumental in preserving social order, and it is a testament to the importance of traditional values in contemporary society. The children, thus, have to respect and obey their parents or, in Javanese expression,
ngajeni. When Javanese marry, they receive the name
wis mentas, meaning that they have become independent from their parents and have become ready to continue life. With respect, an individual is treated in a human way or, in Javanese expression,
diuwongke [
30,
31].
The principle of respect (
urmat) is transmitted through the feelings of
wedi,
isin, and
sungkan. This expression of respect for women is expressed in Javanese metaphoric expressions such as
ibu (mother),
puteri (
female), and
garwa (wife) [
32].
Wedi is a deep-rooted emotion that arises within an individual when they are faced with a threatening, intimidating, or overpowering individual, entity, or situation. This feeling of fear can be overwhelming and may cause a sense of helplessness or vulnerability. It can lead to physical sensations such as trembling, sweating, and increased heart rate, as well as mental distress such as anxiety, panic, and a sense of impending danger.
Isin is a feeling of shame, which has an orientation more toward self so that another’s view is directed to one’s feelings.
Sungkan is a kind of uncomfortable feeling in front of a superior which is a very subtle control of self for reasons of respect for others. Such an uncomfortable containing a psychological reluctance state to deal with is expressed as “
ewuh pekewuh” [
33]. Consequently, it might happen that someone does not express the truth because of
sungkan or because of a bigger environmental safety interest consideration. Javanese children begin to learn the principle of respect (
urmat) in the family, through forms of politeness and Javanese language, especially when the situation demands that they show an attitude of respect. Consequently, it is not enough to know the principle of respect (
urmat), the Javanese have to demonstrate their knowledge of respect to elders and superiors.
The individualization of the principles of hormat constitutes a mentality found in state officers, governors, the army, and those who are in the middle class. Such a mentality is characterized by a tendency to orient to the behavior of the leader. The leaders, such as those who have a higher rank or who are older, must be served and widely respected. The inferiors feel they are respectful when they can give small presents, and those who are in the upper hierarchy (atasan) listen to them, protect them, and give them moral guidance. Superiors should consider the dedication and loyalty of their subordinates.
The upper class or elderly people are considered as knowing or aware of what the lower class thinks and feels. The figure of atasan as protector (
pengayom) means that the leaders or upper-class people listen to and understand the needs of the lower class [
34]. In response, the lower class obeys them and treats them with full respect. The failure to be
pengayom brings about dissatisfaction, indifference, or even disobedience.
An attitude of
urmat, however, is not a guarantee of obedience. The word “yes” might be an expression of hormat which can mean “ I do agree,” “perhaps” or “no” in a respectful way. The subordinate has learned that obedience to authority is useful, but it does not mean that one willingly performs the demands of those who are in authority. The leader becomes a figure like a father (
bapak) who offers protection and stimulates a feeling of faith and dependence. This person is attentive to the lower class and will respect their leader. This principle of
urmat brings about a hierarchical relationship between the leader and follower so that the relationship becomes a relationship of status that is oriented toward the leader [
34,
35]. This vertical relationship is considered to contribute stability and continuity, but on the adverse side, it has a strong psychological tendency to create authoritarian leadership.
There are differences between relationships of intimacy (
keakraban) and relationships based on
urmat. A Javanese will feel comfortable and secure when free from the obligation of observing
urmat. The psychological impact of
urmat, for instance, provides foundations for the good relationship between Indonesian Muslims and Christians [
36], or relationships with followers of other religions [
16]. This constitutes respect for others’ beliefs [
37]. A relationship of closeness, moreover, creates a space in which an individual can live in a relaxed and free state, free from the demands of order or politeness.
According to Javanese thought, the principle of urmat is important for preserving a good and peaceful order. Social life appears as a kind of circumstance in which individuals behave according to their status and rights. Respect and self-esteem tend to be connected to apparent demand. For this reason, an individual’s status may be equivalent to one’s identity in Javanese society. Accordingly, one shows the dignity of his status or one becomes demanding of respect from others, especially from the lower class.
The principle of respect functions in a framework of hierarchical order in which aspiration, order, and protection come from those above to those below. In such an order, position or status is followed by task and duty according to one’s position and place in society. Therefore one is never separated from the duties of one’s status in the whole hierarchical order in which some have to lead and some have to obey. If all act according to their place in such an order, the whole order will be well preserved and all persons will be respected according to their status. The transmission of this principle is also supported by language and the hierarchical social structure. That is why this principle is so strict in Javanese society and is an important element in Javanese ethics. However, the existence of a hierarchical order cannot be free from criticism. Javanese society also has experienced changes and improvements resulting from wider communication and the influence of modernization.
3.2.3. Behavioral Principle of Rukun (Peace)
The Principle of
rukun signifies the Javanese conviction of the importance of a tranquil and peaceful state in society. The word
rukun implies unity through collaboration, and reciprocal reconciliation to help one another without quarrel or conflict. Such collaboration takes place when all people of society live in peaceful co-existence and when they like to collaborate and accept one another in situations of tranquility and understanding. In families, villages, and society, the principle of
rukun is preserved and performed through the tradition and customs of
rewang (assisting the party preparation holder) as well as
gotong royong (collaborative working) [
29,
38,
39].
The principle of
rukun can be viewed from two perspectives, namely, imperative and indicative. As an imperative, the principle of rukun means that everyone should observe
rukun so that all members of society try to avoid the seeds of tension and altercations among individuals and groups in a society [
10]. In other words, every member of society must create a good relationship with others and be involved in a good social life. From this point of view,
rukun requires ongoing efforts to prevent or exclude those factors that could lead to conflicts and disruptions. Society, therefore, must preserve itself from any disturbance that distorts the principle of
rukun [
40]. In other words, the principle of
rukun demands attitudes and actions that protect the peace and tranquility of collaborative working.
The emphasis on harmony in society brings about demands of behaving in a general way (
umum) and an obligation to protect peaceful relationships and togetherness. For this reason, everyone in Javanese society becomes a protector of peace and tranquility. Consequently, in the application or practice of rukun, the individuals put aside their interests and have a preferential option for public interests. An individual is considered unworthy if that individual improves too much beyond the common state of society [
41].
These imperative and indicative perspectives have to be seen as two psychological aspects of the principle of
rukun. In this principle, the individual acts together with society or a group. Accordingly, the individual is considered as bad when he takes initiative without taking into account the collectivity of society [
39]. Society does not easily accept initiatives that are strikingly different from common pursuits. Javanese people assume that such initiatives tend to be outside of the public interest that has been integrated with society and that these new extremes may easily cause quarrels and conflicts [
41]. This accommodates a space for enlivening the local wisdom [
42].
A solution to conflicts takes place through action according to norms of behavior and public concessions which protect social harmony from uncontrolled emotional explosions or public conflict [
42]. Consequently, Javanese society demands self-reflection (
mawas diri) and the capacity to control emotions and feelings [
19]. The figure of a noble person, therefore, can be seen from one’s skill of self-control and the capacity to be calm, and not easily become nervous, confused, or surprised in dealing with anything [
17,
43].
The core of the principle of
rukun demands the avoidance of any attitude bringing about a public conflict [
37]. Hence the result of the state of
rukun (peace) is social harmony in which everyone lives peacefully with others in society [
44]. Further, the principle of
rukun is like a social psychological mechanism that integrates various interests, does not mean that in the principle of
rukun, a Javanese has no personal interests. It does mean that by the preferential option for the public interests, an individual also receives social protection which enables him to have a peaceful mind and life to improve his advantage [
44]. Nevertheless, someone has acquiescence to compromise and to prevent the disruption of the harmony of social life. It must be noted that the idea of
rukun contains a balance of positions, statuses, tasks, duties, and a mutuality or “give and take,” which creates a hierarchical order of life. The hierarchical order of life in society must be respected as a moral demand in itself to keep a community’s sustainability [
45].
The ideal society is described as a society which is governed by the principle of
rukun. In such a state, peace becomes characteristic of the vertical and horizontal relationships in Javanese society. Nevertheless, such an ideal society sometimes has to face the fact of conflict, altercation, and the danger of division. To reach a state of peace, it is not right to bring to light personal affairs. In addition, everyone makes an effort to be sensitive to the feelings of others or, in the Javanese expression,
tepa selira [
46,
47]. The content of
tepa selira is similar to the golden rule: “What is bad if done to yourself, do not do to others.” Thus the ideal Javanese society demands self-control, self-reflection, and control of feelings and emotions for the sake of others and bigger societal environmental safety [
48]. The negative consequences are the strong social pressure on individuals. In other words, there is a danger that social considerations and peer pressure can give rise to tension between heteronomy and individual psychological integrity. The existence of a hierarchical structure within Javanese society makes this aspect evident.
The current discourse aims to expound on the hierarchical social order of life through the application of the principle of empan papan. The latter represents a conceptual framework that sheds light on the organization of social systems, particularly in terms of power distribution and social stratification. By utilizing this principle, we aim to elucidate how individuals and groups are ranked within a given society and how this ranking shapes their experiences and opportunities. Here suffice it to say that the practice of the principle of
rukun is a constituent part of the structure of the Javanese society, and this is why the principle of
rukun becomes noteworthy in Javanese public behavior. The acquiescence of people in making compromises, public concessions, deliberations, and common agreements is stimulated by the power of the principle of
rukun which is in turn propagated through the structure of society, social traditions, and customs [
49].
Politeness, which is called
tata krama in Javanese, facilitates the observance of
rukun. This politeness includes the way of speaking, sitting, gesturing, and the content of discourse, through which the Javanese train themselves to control their emotions, attitudes, and consciousness of others’ positions [
50]. Accordingly, a person feels that his existence depends upon the unity within society or the group in which one can feel secure, safe, and peaceful. Javanese experience social and psychological pressure when they are in confrontation with the common norms of society. They also feel shame and guilt when their attitudes disturb the state of peace in society. In addition, Javanese society also demands the attitude of
rukun and will punish an unsuitable attitude by isolation or the designation of
ora umum (uncommon) [
41].
Members of Javanese society try to behave according to
rukun by encouraging good relationships, social forms of give and take, compromise, and the spontaneous sacrifice of one’s interests for common prosperity and solidarity [
16]. Such efforts create peace of heart and the consciousness of dependence on one another. Consequently, peaceful relationships, mutual respect and understanding, and an adaptable attitude toward society are reasonable, because these duties and values are appreciated. In addition, the members of society are psychologically motivated to take account of others’ existence and mutual dependence structured in norms and forms of politeness [
12].
3.2.4. Behavioral Principle of Empan Papan (Proper Self-Positioning)
The principle of empan papan necessarily contains a consciousness of one’s position or place in society. One’s place indicates a social status and the existence of a social structure. The context of one’s status or position is the social structure in which various cultures, languages, and moral behaviors manifest. The principle of empan papan will be examined in light of this hierarchical order in Javanese society.
It is important to note that the hierarchical order is distinctive. Geertz divides Javanese society into three groups: Abangan, Santri, and Priyayi [
51]. Abangan is considered as that group of the society that is characterized by an amalgamation of Animism, Hinduism, and Islam. The popular tradition of syncretism is the main basis of its civilization. In other words, Abangan emphasizes the elements of Animism and syncretism which distinguish the urban inhabitants and farmers. The second that Geertz names Santri, is a group that has an Islamic tradition and also a wide network of trade throughout the whole island of Java. The tradition of Santri includes the practice of the Islamic religion such as prayer, fasting, and hajj (pilgrimage to Mecca). In addition to this, they are also involved in social and political organizations. Most of them are involved in society as Islamic traders. The third distinct group is Priyayi which has its roots in the Hindu-Javanese kingdom and has connections with the elements of bureaucracy. They preserve and improve the art, literature, mysticism, and etiquette of the kingdom. The elements of Hinduism are outstanding in this group. This group has contributed a view of the world with its ethical and social behavior which has become the role model of the elite class and most of society.
These three groups constitute an interesting comprehension of the structures of Javanese society that produce a psychological lifestyle. Geertz’s approach is based on research from 1953-1954 at Modjokuto, East Java. He is focused on precise data and a methodical examination of society and culture. Yet, he doesn’t seem to realize that someone can be both a Priyayi and a Santri, which means there isn’t a clear-cut distinction between the two [
34]. He also lacks of psychological analysis of the mindset that manifests in the behavior of every group. Nevertheless, his study has shed light upon and contributed to the comprehension of the social structure of Javanese society. In this perspective, the principle of
empan papan becomes a norm for placing oneself among others within society. The ability to place oneself among others within these structures leads some to psychological awareness of others, security, and safety. Accordingly, those who place themselves well are accepted and protected by society, as their presence does not become a social and psychological threat to others. This psychological cultural wisdom can function to prevent emerging radicalism [
52,
53].
According to Magnis-Suseno [
54], the understanding of position in society (
empan papan) is not separated from the Javanese view of the world which universally connects events in the world with the mysterious powers of the universe. The understanding of one’s proper place has great significance for the Javanese because the safety of a human being also depends upon how he finds his proper place and acts according to it. Hence, individual can fulfill their desires and interests and attain their hopes by their efforts, according to one’s rightful status.
The principle of
empan papan is intended to protect the situation of a state of social harmony. This principle is based on the assumption that if everyone places himself according to his proper position in the cosmos, there will not be any clash of powers that disturbs social and psychological harmony. Social harmony manifests itself in tranquility, a peaceful state, and a situation of order. Such a state becomes a sign that there are no disturbances of social and psychological harmony. Its implementation in politeness makes this principle a smart strategy for keeping societal order [
55].
Emotional tension, the psychological absence of a peaceful mind, and disturbances of social harmony cause mysterious cosmic vibration waves and psychological problems in the whole society which bring about unpredictable dangers. This becomes common for the traditional
kejawen belief which is a set of perspectives and values accompanied by several practices (similar to “worship”) [
56]. That is why together with the principle of
rukun, the principle
of empan papan governs the avoidance of any disturbance of social harmony so that conflicts do not appear openly or in public. Expressed in another way, the principle of
empan papan implies the recognition of a proper place for every person. These three principles, namely,
urmat,
rukun, and
empan papan, play a main role in ethics personal culture, and Javanese social psychology.